TEN GOOD REASONS TO MEDIATE
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS?
1. SAVES MONEY
We do not have an up-front retainer for mediation. Sessions are paid for on a pay as you go basis. Mediation clients can space the sessions to accommodate the financial outlay that is comfortable. You never have to pay for two attorney retainers as in a litigated divorce, and you do not rack up double hourly fees for two attorneys.
2. FASTER RESULTS
Mediated divorces are usually faster than litigated divorces. Mediated divorces are not delayed by the crowded court calendars or adjournments by attorneys. Mediation clients can proceed at the pace that they choose and are comfortable with.
3. MORE CONTROL OVER DECISIONS
People who mediate make all the decisions in their agreement. No judge decides what the couple must do. That’s a good thing because they know the most about their own needs and those of their children.
4. NO TIME WASTED IN COURT
People who mediate never go to court. Anyone who has been through a litigated divorce can tell you about endless hours spent at court “conferences” where the clock is running while everyone waits, and the clients are then excluded from the discussion between the lawyers and the judge.
5. LESS STRESSFUL
People who mediate are not subjected to the intense pressures and stresses of litigating.
6. LOWER EMOTIONAL COSTS
The mediator seeks to establish a pattern of respectful communication between the parties. While recognizing the anger and hurt that are often present, she assists the clients in maintaining constructive participation. This helps to set a more positive pattern for their long term post-divorce relationship.
7. BETTER LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS
People who mediate tend to maintain better long-term relationships with former spouses and more involvement of both parents in the normal activities of child rearing. A family therapist/mediator is best qualified to guide you in decisions affecting your children including when and how to inform them.
8. BETTER PARENTING PLANS
People who mediate create much more carefully thought through and detailed parenting plans, based on shared aspirations for their children.
9. BETTER LONG-TERM COMPLIANCE
Because mediated agreements grow out of serious cooperative discussions between the parties, they are more accepting of the terms of the agreement and less likely to seek to overturn them in court. If conditions change and a modification of the agreement is called for, that too can be mediated
10. MORE ULTIMATE SATISFACTION
People who mediate are much more likely to end up feeling that they got a fair agreement and that the costs were reasonable. They experience more satisfaction with the process than litigants experience with the adversarial process.
Some clients have reported that they found the experience empowering. Many clients also report that they are pleased that they will always be able to look back with pride at the way they conducted themselves under very trying circumstances. They are pleased to have participated with honesty, integrity, and even compassion.
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